We have many, many, many, acquaintances in this life, But Few real friends.
When you think about it you want to be sad, Don’t this is how its supposed to be. I was trying to teach my teen daughter it is possible to have more than one best friend. where she argued a blue streak saying it just was not possible. I have learned otherwise there are different kinds of friends.
- The friendly acquaintance.
- Your casual friend( you know the one from high school you call every 6 mo to a year just to make sure their breathing, go camping or watch the super bowl with, or Ladies you go shopping twice a year.)
- Then there are your close friends,( You know the ones you hang with at the bar or coffee shop. once or twice a week.)
- Best friend type A:(the one you take to the gym, see every other day but still no call’s after 11pm. and you share your every day struggles to a point)
- BEST Friend best of the best.(the ones you call family even though you’re not related. Brothers from different mothers and sisters of the same.You share everything day or night ups, downs there is never TMI.)
For me, I love all unconditionally, and sometimes its hard to distinguish between 1&2.
but it happens and I get hurt. In explaining this to my daughter she started to get it.
Sometimes when I think of the people I consider family, some I have known for years and some only months and some I even never seen or I have but not in person all I do is talk to them on messenger or skype. but they are good people. you know how kids today say I have an app for that? well, I say I have a Friend for that. I have friends that share in most all of my interests and I have friends that share life experiences, so when I need my friends I go to the ones that can help the most first and then the rest. to start a spiral just
like the structure of the large shell, I’m in the center and all my Friends and Family are gathered around creating this strong support network.
Are you Getting it yet? its the same for you. there are some simple rules to follow…
- Always be Honest (Don’t Lie to your Friends)
- learn when to plead the fifth, ( to say I have no opinion)
- Always Listen, even when you think they’re totally out of their mind.
- Never Ever Take Your Friends For Granted!!!
- always have words of encouragement ready when needed.
- Don’t be afraid to tell your friends they are Messing up.
- If you can, give your friend the tools to get back on track.This is when I teach. If they have needs that need to be met, use your best judgment and refer to rule 11.(as a rule, I always buy what they need if it concerns money if I have it. I never give Cash or checks to friends No offense.)
- Never leave an argument unsettled( if you cant agree, agree to disagree)
- Always let your friends know how you feel.
- always let them know they are loved.(give hugs when needed)
- The word NO is not the end of a friendship.
- FORGIVENESS is not a weakness…
- All Apologies are from the heart and it is not a weakness to do so if you royally screwed up, is a sign of the strength of your character.
Trisha's Nook 