Positive Reinforced Discipline:

when you are laying down the law never do it with a raised voice .
stern and strong is good. yelling is Bad.
name calling is bad braking down self esteem is bad .
always let them know that you love them even though you are disappointed in their actions.
let them know that their actions were dumb or stupid while at the same time reassuring them
they are not dumb or stupid.
listening to what they have to say without interruption, unless they are being disrespectful . just say excuse me and interject there but try to stay in in a speaking voice. because when you start yelling their brains shut down and they stop listening. all of your consequences are put in to place with I love you and you know that for every action is an opposite and equal reaction. so these are our…

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Friends…

April 6, 2017April 10, 2018 trishasnookLeave a comment

What Kind Of Friend Are You???

The friend who only calls or comes round when you need something?
The friend who if its not convenient it doesn’t matter to you?
The two faced friend who loves me to my face and trash talks about me behind my back?
The friend who is just a friend for what I can give you (stuff)?
The friend who uses me for your fall guy?
The mean friend who subtly bully’s me?
The friend who takes me for granted?
THE FRIEND WHO IS ALWAYS THERE NO MATTER WHAT?
THE FRIEND WHO LIKES ME FOR ME?
THE FRIEND WHO IS HONEST 99.9% OF THE TIME?
THE FRIEND THAT DISTANCE DOESN’T MATTER YOU’LL CALL,TEXT, OR WRITE OFTEN OR WHEN POSSIBLE?

12. THE FRIEND WHO LOVES ME UNCONDITIONALLY?

I was not yelling. I was separating the good from the bad. Friendship is very important to personal growth and stability, allot of people go through life with out experiencing true friendship. And it’s sad. you don’t need to follow the crowd to have friends. sure its fun to fit in when it good clean fun like fashion, music and common interests. But acting like some one else is not good for you; you need to be you. If you don’t know who you are trying new things is good as long as they are legal and you aren’t going to hurt your self doing them. to be liked you must Like your self.

I know that can be hard some times and some times you need a helping hand to show you how to do this. Self respect and self esteem go hand in hand .

And always remember that what you say and what you do out in the world is how people in the world see you and make their opinions of you.IF YOU DON’T ACT LIKE AN ASS AT HOME, DON’T ACT LIKE ONE IN PUBLIC!

Words can Hit harder than a slap. So think before you speak. you will make more friends that way.

You know I just went over the don”ts. And did not help any one make friends. Well here it is its simple , smile and say hi. Sometimes it just happens you start talking to some one oh I don’t know at the Dr.’s office or the park or the food court at the mall and things build from there or its someone from work or school. I used bad grammar on purpose to make a point. sometimes a random act of kindness can be an Icebreaker just don’t be creepy about it. If you are trying to make friends with someone who is standoffish and a little rude find out what interests them it might be something you like to do to or something new you might like.

well, I’m going to close with a poem from a friend.

A blessed thing it is for any man or woman to have a friend,

one human soul whom we can trust utterly,

who knows the best and worst of us,

and who loves us in spite of all our faults…

by: CHARLES KINGSLEY

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I think you can find a Coffee Lover anywhere…(tea,juice, & coco too)

April 5, 2017March 18, 2018 trishasnookLeave a comment

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Most everywhere I go and where ever I find Friends it seems That Coffee is something to be shared by Most I encounter its common ground. It’s the proverbial icebreaker to start a conversation it might get goofy but you get comfortable enough to have a real talk about anything and everything over coffee.

Not all my friends like coffee but that’s okay, I don’t fault them because I like tea, fruit juice, & Coco in different flavors and blends. even though my favorite is Coffee different strokes for different folks. I have a variety of all these things in my kitchen as I have friends over I have many different ways of brewing Coffee and tea and making the perfect Coco. I make fresh fruit juice or have the makings of their favorite blend on hand as I like them too. So Don’t think Coffee is bitter It’s Like life its what you make of it. and Invite your friends over or out to Coffee get them what they like and have a great time sharing in person for those who are close to you or start a chat cafe. Spend time with your friends & Family their all you have and life is short. 4dcc60d21c69bc02e5ab333fdf5d653c 9999999999

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A life with Disabilities.Don’t feel sorry for me.. But you can pray.

April 3, 2017February 24, 2018 trishasnookLeave a comment

When I was 3yrs old I was diagnosed with migraine disease and through the years the headaches have come in many forms, from syncope, dizziness, heart palpitations, & the mimic of stroke. a Migraine is a misfire in the brain that sends the wrong signals to the body. Sometimes I wish it was just blinding pain as it often is.

I also have RA in most of my joints and spine, So mobility is an issue. Most of the time I have to be laying down as sitting and standing is difficult for long periods of time. I have 2 adult children who help with my care and a teen who is a challenge. My husband does most of everything I need but when he needs to go out my older children look after me. I can do most things for my self if I don’t have to be up to long.

There are times when I feel like a burden as I feel silly needing a sitter because I never know when the invisible man is going to strike and I have a Headache, Or I fall God forbid I’m alone when this happens Because some of my headaches are deadly.

Don’t Get me wrong I’m not feeling sorry for myself far from it I am very blessed to have such a loving and supportive family I thank God for them every day and I never take them for granted. I also have some of the greatest friends around too as if they have the time they visit and do a lot of fun stuff with me. We watch movies, go out for coffee or frozen yogurt, or maybe just a drive. when I feel up to it.

I thank God every day for my life. I do things that are fulfilling I counsel teens in crisis, and parent of said teens as well. I work with suicide intervention online. And I play games with online friends. Such as FV2, Matches with friends, Candy crush, and many others.

Please don’t Feel sorry for me other than pain; I AM VERY HAPPY and very Blessed!

I like to think I’m a good Friend who listens. I don’t take my friends for granted, they are too precious and the true ones are rare indeed.

So in closing, If I can be a nice person and smile be loving and deal with all the crap I just talked about. There is no reason for any of you to be sourpusses. Get It? Got It? Good!!!